A Journey Like No Other (From Miss to Mrs)
As a Muslim girl coming from a culturally rich background, marriage proposals often come sooner than you wish. Passing each one is like sitting for a test where failure is unusually satisfying and feels like a achievement. It’s also a time where you envy the masculine gender for their prolonged freedom from training, bantering, lectures and marriage itself. However, there is eventually no escape and the matter can be settled with settling in for marriage itself.
Choosing the right partner is a topic on its own and is often based on insights, love at first sight, spending hours praying in Thahajjud, or hours of chatting online. Apart from all the prenuptial customs and planning, have you given thought to the transformation or surprising changes one endures with marriage? Let me caution you… it never has been easy. If your experience was like mine, you will agree to the fact that it’s never like you thought, heard or seen. Its a new house, new people, new feelings, new responsibilities, and overall a new life. Some changes are alluring while some are less so. While most of the time you spend contemplating if your choice is right or wrong, everyday is a new challenge and course of learning. Even though the subject might mostly sound negative, it is for you to decide. Once a great person said “You read, you interpret”. The pleasure of having a shadow to eat with, to talk with, to walk with, to sleep with, share your joy and sorrow with and to grow old with is quiet something. Two individuals supporting each other. Caring for and encouraging one another. A shoulder to cry on and a hand to hold in this life and the next.
“And among his signs is that he created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them; and He placed between you love and mercy. Indeed in this is a message for people who reflect” (Surah Rum 30:21).
Marriage is a huge stepping stone of ones’s life. You take the right step and you are set for life. However, if all you fancy are #relationshipgoals, you may be following an imaginary dream. Every relationship is unique in its own way. Accepting that itself will take you half the way down a happy journey.
Even though it takes two dedicated individuals to make a marriage journey worth recalling or a “walk to remember”, it depends on Allah, The Almighty, to guide you. Islam, where basically everything is about the belief in the unseen or tawakkal in Allah; having tawakkal in Allah takes away the burdens that you have no control over. Some decisions in life are so undecided or hard to make – marriage being one of them – is solely depended in the hands of Allah. Our faith, in the right place, can reap the right choices in life. I know its easier said than done but it is always worth it in the end. Next time you feel helpless or powerless, keep tawakkal, close your eyes, pray hard, and follow your heart. Hope our journey of marriages be filled with love and laughter.
“Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure, and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honorable.” (Surah Nur 24:26).
